How is dating (a.k.a hooking up, hanging out, having a gringo boyfriend, or any other type of relationship-ish you can have with a foreigner) a gringo when you are a Colombian woman?
Well, this is a super tough question! And it is difficult because everything I will say here is a generalization. Keep that in mind while reading this. However, as a wise friend once told me: “We generalize to simplify reality”. Of course, there will always be exceptions.
Before starting to write this, I did some “research” (a.k.a gossip) with a girlfriend who is currently living in the U.S and has dated a couple of gringos there. I asked her “What is it like to date a gringo?”. Her experience seems to be completely different than the experiences I have had dating gringos. Why is that?
First, because everybody is different! and regardless of your nationality, there are always differences when dating different people. Second, because I not only date gringos, but rather gringos who travel, and I believe – my friend seconds this theory – there is a big difference between dating a gringo and dating a gringo who travels.
So, what’s it like to date a gringo who travels?
They are less romantic
Chivalry is not dead for Colombian men. They are (usually) a typical gentleman that opens the door for you, pulls the chair out for you, says “ladies first”, and gifts you chocolates and roses just because. A gringo who travels is way less romantic than this. And in my experience, actually, does none of those things.
Why do I like this? Because I don’t want a gentleman around me. Thanks, dear, but I can open the door by myself. And keep giving me chocolates but…roses? What am I supposed to do with those? I like living nature. Take me on a hike and show me the beauty of the flowers there!
Gringos who travel have stories to tell
Sadly, Colombians don’t travel as often as gringos. A guy who travels will have a lot of great stories to tell you. This not only applies to gringos who travel, but to everyone that travels.
Why do I like this? Because it’s never boring. I love stories and I love to exchange them. Having something to talk about is a key in any type of relationship I may have.
They don’t really want to commit
A typical 30-year-old Colombian must be thinking that it’s time to settle down, buy a house, get a steady job, and probably get married. That’s definitely not what a gringo who travels is looking for. They just want to have fun and explore this country before the move to the next one.
Why do I like this? Because even the love of my life will only be the love of my life for a specific period of time, which at the end, is the only life we have, right?
They like adventure
They like to do new stuff. They’re active. They are explorers. They like an adventure. A gringo in Colombia’s favorite plan is leaving town for a weekend getaway and hiking.
Why do I like this? I used to be a super lazy girl. My favorite plan for Sunday was staying at home doing literally nothing. Now, I can not do that anymore. I need to be active, I need to explore, I need to get out of the city. I need to travel and explore and I love to have a partner in crime for that.
Things go faster
Dating a Colombian can take years. We still are a conservative country and even most of the young people believe that something serious need to start slow. With a gringo, you can concrete a lot of things in the first couple dates. And, I won’t go any deeper at this point, haha.
Why do I like this? I seriously believe that there isn’t timing for anything. Whatever you want, make it happen. Slow processes in dating are boring and old fashion!
Gringos are more relaxed
A Colombian will pretend he’s a perfect guy who never smells bad, gets sick, burps, or gets pecueca (google it and learn what it means!). A gringo who has traveled is more relaxed with all these normal human-body aspects., Sometimes, unfortunately, they can be way more relaxed than they should.
Why do I like this? Although it can be a bit gross sometimes, I like and admire the fact gringos believe we’re human bodies and we’re not perfect. The fact he burps in front of you after drinking the beer shows confidence. I believe I can do the same.
They wash dishes
Not all, though. But I have been fortunate enough to not have to wash dishes after cooking breakfast. I’m sure a typical Latino would leave the plates in the kitchen waiting for me to wash them.
Why do I like this? I enjoy washing dishes – I seriously do- but there’s nothing sexier than a man taking care of his stuff and cleaning his mess. I swear to God that turns me on!
You can laugh at them (when they speak Spanish)
And they can laugh at you when you speak English. You can correct them and they can correct you. They will surprise you saying local words they just learned and they will annoy you by asking you to speak in English, even if they have a decent basic-conversation Spanish.
Why do I like this? Because it’s like being in a constant language exchange. You learn and you teach. Plus, it’s fun and they sound super cute trying to not to sound like a 4-year-old.